And you should at least consider feeling sorry for her, because maybe you’ll meet someone like her (possibly in the situation that she is in).Īh no, i would never deny that she is a victim. I don’t want to over-complicate anything, but basically just because you can’t empathise (or relate to her decision-making) with the character does not mean she is not a victim. ANd I can at least listen to different people’s experiences and understand whether or not what happened to them was Good or bad, and hopefully get otherS to understand where that group of ppl are coming from When they talk about mistreatment and how society tries to brush that under rug. That’s fine, good actually.īut for example I’m not an African-American trans-woman but I can still sympathise with that person’s experiences and empathise on some things. not everyone will approach this kind of relationship in the same way.“ i would act differently put in the same situation as erika, so it’s hard for me to understand her mindset. “i haven’t had a unhealthy romantic relationship experience, 2. Not only am I worried that this anime and manga has normalised abusive relationships to teenage girls but to also train ppl not to sympathise with the victim. But I am telling you, this is the kind of relationship that should be avoided at all costs and not be sold to a young and impressionable audience which it is. And that is why you can’t sympathise her, because the writer obviously did not know what she was doing, and also the publishers just didnt have any standards. This anime and manga portrays abusive relationships accurately but it frames it as romantic. Like I said I was in a two year relationship with a guy and it was aweful, I tried to break up with him but he kept saying that the toxic issues in our relationship that were detrimental to my self-esteem among other Traumas From it was just normal couple stuff that we had to work through and that I needed to stick It out and be strong. The main reason why ppl stay in toxic relationships (And friendships) is because they don’t know that it is toxic and struggle to let go of the attachment they have built.
You said “i don’t even know if i feel bad for her or not” that why I said you should feel bad for her. I don't blame her for being in an abusive relationship after she fell in love and not leaving, but I do blame her for placing herself in that mess and being too superficial to correct her past mistakes. So while the guy acts like a dick for taking advantage of her and not just avoiding her, she placed herself in that situation. She wasn't in love in the first place and trapped herself in her own web of lies. I don't blame her for staying in the relationship or pining after him within the relationship so much, it's just her actions that are unrelated to him and how she acted before him as well that greatly reduces the sympathy I feel for her as a character. Also if I remember correctly before he was abusive she was pining after him and pretended he was her boyfriend just because he was sexy. She's a chronic liar and doesn't get better, that's the basis for a lot of the story. Or to clarify I do sympathize for her in a way, or hope she would get out of it to do better, but I do not personally care that much because of her personality.
Personally I can't feel bad for her because I think she's just as shitty as the male lead and even more annoying.
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